While people may joke that men have only one thing on their minds, guys aren't the only ones with sex on the brain. In fact, according to a study by Harold Leitenberg and Kris Henning, sexual fantasies are common among both men and women, and approximately 95 percent of both genders say they have had some form of sexual fantasies. Fantasies play a valuable role in our sex-lives. First off, they fuel arousal: "Thoughts can create real physical changes in your body, and you can use this to your advantage," writes sex educator Emily Nagoski in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms. But while both men and women have undoubtedly healthy fantasy lives, they're not fantasizing about the same things. In A Billion Wicked Thoughts , neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam report that while men are, indeed, more visual, preferring to fantasize about what they might do to that fetching new colleague the next cubicle over, women prefer to fantasize about what a man might do to them.
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Scene from "Eyes Wide Shut" massimo ankor. Women's sexual fantasies do not always reflect what they want in real life, according to a recently published study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. For example, while a large proportion of women in the study said they fantasized about being dominated in some way, half of those women specifically indicated that they would not want to live out their fantasy of sexual submission. The team of researchers who conducted the study asked a pool of 1, men and women, living in the province of Quebec and most between the age of 20 to 40, what they fantasize about when it comes to sex.
Yep, the entire human race has a mind that drifts to the gutter at least some times. Eyes glued to the screen during that Game of Thrones scene yes, the one where Theon Greyjoy gets naked with two drop-dead queens? Hand travel between your legs at the thought of a multi-person orgy? Why can group sex be so hot? The idea of multiple people wanting to have sex with you is part of the turn on.
While the physical side of sex is obviously an important one, fantasy and imagination are often overlooked but can be equally as beneficial to a healthy sex life. Female fantasies, especially, are often kept private and even now, when people are increasingly more open about sex, some are considered too risque to share. Crave sex with a stranger or being tied up? From being pinned down to the more extreme aspects of sexual domination, including BDSM and rape, domination is highly arousing for many women. The reality? MORE: The 9 best adult parties happening right now. MORE: 11 reasons why you should have a one night stand. Despite adult parties being increasingly more popular, most people never have the opportunity to try out this fantasy in real life and continue to enjoy the experience in their imagination. The adrenaline that comes from the fear of being caught to the arousal of watching others at their most exposed and intimate can, undoubtedly, be a turn on.